Ramblings of a sweet and evil dominant Woman

It’s been two months since my last confession… I mean blog. Yeah, anyway lets see if I can get these thoughts to make sense.

Lately I’ve been thinking a bit about the online social networks, particularly the ones that lean toward D/s and kink, and how they work or don’t work. See when I see “network” I think somewhere to meet people, chat have fun and maybe maybe meet someone “special.” Apparently, however a majority of people sign up for these networks sign up to negotiate a relationship. Hi your needs wants match mine lets bond for life yay all done shopping. um ok, I can sort of see where that comes from. That is often how the sites advertise themselves isn’t it? And (I can start a sentence that way it’s my blog) yes it is often men who do this but not just.

Ok. This approach rarely works. You look desperate people! (maybe you are but, you know, fake it!) I know I don’t want someone who wants to be with me because I’m the only thing available. I don’t think many do. So you get rejected. Repeatedly. And you go away thinking the system doesn’t work.

A few tips. Do not go in like you are negotiating a scene with a pro. (unless you are!) I hear complaints all the time about dominant women asking for tributes and yes ick. However, don’t make me feel like I should be getting paid to speak to you.

Do use the resources provided. Blog. I’ve seen this work more than anything else. Put a little of yourself out there,let people feel like they know you.

Do get to know people! It’s called a network for a reason. The person saying hi might not be your soul mate but maybe they introduce you to someone who is.

Relax, have fun. If you feel too desperate log off for a while.

If you go into a chat room, chat! Do not try to immediately negotiate a scene. Get to know people.

Network people, network!

mmk this has ended up being more of a lecture than what I was trying to do. Oh well, rambles right?